Tuesday, August 23, 2005

Bitchy Bosses and Signing Off

So today I am doing the mature thing. I am calling up my former boss and kissing up to her for a while so I can get a good reference out of her. Now, don't get me wrong. I was a great employee for my company and I worked very hard for her. But she is one of those bosses where you never know what you're gonna get from her. Some days, she would tell me how smart I was and how much I contributed to the department. Other days, she would act as if I was not even in the same building. So, since I don't know which person she will be when my references call her, I have to at least get the Gods Of The Bipolar Bosses on my side and remind her, subtly, how awesome I am.
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Isn't it totally weird when you have your daily blog reads, and then all of a sudden one of them says - "its been nice, but I am not doing this anymore"? This has happened to me quite a few times since I have been blogging - most recently with Bridget and Mel, both of whom seem like they will actually be sticking around - and its a totally bizarre thing. These are people I don't know, I've never met, and yet somehow I miss them when they sign off. Do you all feel the same way when a blog friend calls it quits?

33 comments:

Charlie Mc said...

yeah, I was stunned when Bridge "signed off" last week. You get used to following their daily lives and events. Hope you are not going anywhere!!!! :)

Mel said...

Yeah, I'm sticking around. Just moved to a new house. I like my blog buddies too much. I know what you mean about the boss thing though. I had a boss for eight years who was like that. I SO wanted to stick it to that bitch when I left the company but I couldn't burn any bridges. I can only hope karma has found her by now. ciao!

HighMaintenanceHussy said...

You might wanna slip a little lithium into her coffee cup before she sits down to write your reference letter.

Kathleen said...

Yes, Clarity at diaryland has threatened to quit every so often when people say shitty things to her and I always tell her that I would understand, but that she shouldn't let the assholes get to her. And if someone doesn't post for a week or so, you start to get worried about them. I'm so co-dependent!

Bumbling Bav said...

YOu could always have a friend call and see what kind of ref she is gonna give. Cheating yes....

I have thought of killing my blog lately. But my husband keeps me going. Where else can I go and bitch, walk away and not worry that someone is gonna take it out on him. Cause you know by the time I have typed it out.... ok well maybe an hour later... I am calm. Hahahaha!

Now how the heck do I deal with these evil spammers?

Andrea

Shannon said...

I was fired from a job once and when the new boss to be called for a reference, they said they would hire me back just not now...What the ????
And the friends thing? SUcks ass when they walk away just come read my post called "my sitcom life"

InterstellarLass said...

Crossing fingers that the old boss gives you a good reference. I had one of those. Crazy lady.

I often wonder how long I can keep my blog up. Will I still have interesting things to say six months from now? A year from now? Do I have interesting things to say today? Do people like me? It's very hard some days, but I take personal pleasure in it, so I keep going. As long as I'm happy with it, I'll keep on postin'.

Bev - Living In Hormoney said...

I hate it when people that I've been reading regularily suddenly disappear! (even though I understand it) It's like stopping in the middle of a book!

-xtessa- said...

good luck on the reference thing... LOL on the Gods of Bipolar!;)

it's sad when a blogfriend decides to call it quits. but then again, i also get those feelings when keeping up with my blog seems too much work. i have the coolest blogfriends 'coz they always ask what's happened to me if i missed a day of posting. ehehehe.

Peanutt said...

Bav had a great idea about having a friend call for you to see what your ex-bipolar boss will say!

deputyswife said...

Too funny about the bipolar boss. Now that you mention it, my former boss must be bipolar. One day she would love me, the next she acted like I wasn't even there. What an idiot. I don't even use her as a reference anymore. Too risky.

Good luck with the job search!

Natsthename said...

I've never had a blog pal call it quits...yet. Hope none of them do!

Bipolar boss. Good thing you got outta there, but hey, hope she's on a manic when she recommends you to your new employer!

Wirthy said...

This was a truly funny blog that signed off while on the top of its game:

http://stuckinrehabwithpatobrien.blogspot.com/

Neil said...

That is so true when someone stops blogging. I go through a whole set of emotions from concern that the person is OK to jealousy that the person must have a more exciting life than me if they have to stop blogging! And, in reality, you don't even know the person. Like you -- I don't know you at all, and I'm already worried about you and a new job.

Danielle said...

i have only been blogging for under a month, but i already feel like the connections are strong, and I would be very sad if people like you signed off for good. and i really do get nervous when people who post everyday don't post for a few days. especially when in the last post the person seemed depressed.

good luck with the ref.

Night Flier said...

I am sure your boss will give you a good reference. When it comes down to it, people know and understand when your trying to get a job and need a great reference.

I love my blog buddies, I hope no one else closes up shop! :)

Lassa said...

When I read the title of your post I was all "OH NO! She's signing off?!?"

But, whew! you're not. I would be sad if you did :)

Good luck with the second interview!

Camy Leon said...

I would hate it if anyone left, but If they gotta go...
I Would prefer they take a lil break and post occasionally. If someone does sign off forever, I will always be wondering what they are doing right now.
I have linked two blogs on my page that never posted again, they are a band and are touring, I'm still waiting and wishing and hoping they post again.

Jean-Luc Picard said...

Obce you've got the reference, you can tell her how awesome and how much better at the job you are than her.

Molly said...

Hope you were successful in charming your old boss.

Yeah it is weird how it jolts your day to find out a blogging buddy is contemplating hanging it up!

Arethusa said...

I second the lithium suggestion! I've never had a blog pal call it quits, but I'd imagine that if I had never met them I'd still be a bit mopey about it.

Scully said...

Good luck with those bipolar gods.

I too feel a loss when someone stops blogging. Makes me sad.

mg said...

People are still getting used to the whole "online relationships" thing.

Since I've adopted the policy that online and real-life don't mix very well, I've not had to move my blog once.

I've been forced to pull the disappearing act, only due to the people that I interact on a RL basis(ex lovers, ex friends) can't deal with who I am in a "literary/literal" sense of being. Isn't that ridiculous?

mg

pia said...

Had a job and left--they loved me
went back--they hated me

After I left because I hated them even more I had a friend who is an HR VP at a large company call--do the chat thing and ask for a writtten reference

It was glowing and I know that they think I had lost a hundred IQ points. Think people are scared to give bad refrences

Walking,Talking,Poison said...

Hi there, found you through Hello Shiitty's site =)
I just gotta say I second Pia's written reference for more reasons than one.
I had a great job that I was frikking fabulous at and I loved. I was a general manager of 2 stores and andother one opening soon. My bosses loved me because I took care of all the dirty work and left them alone, because I hate being micromanaged. One problem, I worked 17 hour days and found out I was pregnant. I didnt mind the schedule before the baby was born, but after would have been impossible. They caught wind I was preggers and realized that I was just short of a year at the time(the amt of time I would have had to work there to earn maternity leave). I didnt get fired, the cheap bastards terminated my position. GRR.
Gawd, Im long winded, back to the point. To my total glee, AND disappointment, when I went back to work they had gone completely out of business. Of course it made me happy they lost their business 3 months after letting me go, but wait a sec, how do I get references now? The only thing the new owners had a record of was the fact I worked there and what dates. Not the hours I put in, not the fact that I set up all the computer equiptment and programmed all our inventory in, etc. NOT very helpful at all.
You never know when you may need that reference again. Even if its a large company with no chance of closing, that psychotic manic depressive may not still be there. Besides, in a written ref, at least you dont have to chance her having PMS when the new place calls =D

Better Safe Than Sorry said...

i keep my blog going because my kids encourage me too, i would much rather spend all my time just visiting my regular reads. bridget was my first regular read, i found quite a few of my reads from her blog, i was surprised when she said she was going to give it up, i'm glad she's not for the time being.
anyway, you're also one of my regular reads, and i've just tagged you at my place.

Indigo said...

I totally morn the loss of a blog when they pack up and go away. It's happened to me once so far! That was so wierd.

Please don't ever do that to us Jersey. :-)

Sleeping Mommy said...

I was just thinking about your second topic today. So many of my reads have either quit completely or seem to be floundering and are taking breaks.

Holly said...

I'm such a new blogger, that I haven't felt the loss of a blog I read regularly... yet.
But I bet it will be weird and sad.

They will give you a good reference! Everything is so jacked up nowadays, companies rarely give much more than "yes he/she did work here" just to save their ass from being sued.

Twist of Kate said...

Yes, I have been abandoned before by fellow bloggers and I have been left questioning, WHY would they stop because I don't know if I could ever do that. But then again, you and I both may be working soon (see my place for news) and maybe we won't have the time we used to to devote to our "friends" I will surely make the effort though.

Curator said...

I agree, it bothers me when people quit blogging without no reason.

Always makes you wonder WTF happened.

trine said...

First, good luck with the arse-kissing!! ;-)

second, yes it's weird. One of my favourite bloggers of all time, the mad mad of the mad haiku, signed off some weeks ago, due to pressures from work wanting to know about his blog etc, and i was FURIOUS. When good bloggers just stop i don't always get it, but sometimes i do and sometimes I feel like quitting too... but I've been doing it for so long now, it's become such a part of my every day life i think I'd miss it too much. instead i try to reinvent myself, hence the video-blogging.

Danielle said...

gurl i had to do the hwole kiss up thing before, he do what you gotta do to get what u want!!! yea!